Pregnancy hormones are making me feel crazy! It's a long vent, hoping someone understands!?
June 29, 2010 by admin
Filed under Infection Male Yeast
I’m 22 weeks pregnant with my first baby, a boy! We have been together for just about 3 years and I found out I was pregnant a week before Christmas. We tried for so long and I thought it was never going to happen and I knew I was going to love being pregnant and have his child.
Well……I’m 5 months pregnant now, and I don’t feel like I thought I would. I have done everything the Dr. told me, and called every time I had a problem with my pregnancy. In the beginning of my second trimester, I got pretty sick with double ear infections, and then a sinus infection and then a yeast infection from all the antibiotics. Right after that, my boyfriend’s Pap passed away and the week after I called my Dr. just looking for some reassurance that everything was okay….and the nurse I spoke to made some comments that were totally inappropriate and WRONG as well. She made me feel as if things weren’t going to be okay with myself, and more importantly, my BABY.
I lost a lot of sleep worrying about my son, lost my appetite, and even had myself getting sick more often. I spoke to my actual Dr, who told me nothing is fine, and that I have nothing to worry about and that’s that.
Well, it’s easier said than done when someone tells you that, from my point of view anyway. No one understands why I am upset. Everyone says I need to get over it, and I definitely don’t think of it as much as I used to, but it’s still so fresh in my mind. Everyone says as long as the baby and I are healthy, that’s all that really matters and i can’t have myself all worked up about this. No one is listening to me, and I am getting so upset!
I sit and cry and cry and cry, and I have no clue why. I can’t even think straight, I feel like my head is all cloudy. I started seeing a male therapist who tells me I am making a big deal out of nothing.
I feel like I am going to go crazy. I feel so bad because I know I have no right to feel this way, and I love my boyfriend and my son more than anything in the world, but I am not sure why I feel this way. My mom told me she never felt this way, and my sister, with three children tells me I am overreacting. I want to go home and just cry in my boyfriends arms, but he doesn’t understand what I am going through. He gets on my case about why I am always so sick and tired and wonders why I sleep so much.
I know this is a life changing event, and I am hoping that whatever is going on, it just hormones. I feel so down all the time anymore and I fake being happy to everyone and I don’t want to do that anymore. I feel like I will never be happy, just hopeless, and I’m not even sure over what?
I am not usually this emotional, but I can look into the future and know that eventually I will get over this and be happy and this will all be just a mere memory that I look back on and laugh, but right now, I’m not sure what to do.
I also neglected to mention that in the beginning of my pregnancy when everyone was still having parties, I was the beer/food runaround girl and sat out while everyone had a good time. My boyfriend’s dad even went so far as to say it’s only a matter of time before you have a fat ass, and I’ve lost 5 pounds since being pregnant. His step-mother also said to me, ‘Don’t be too shocked if he tells you he wants nothing to do with this baby like he said to his first wife with their first baby’. My supervisor at work also tells me I should be more careful of what I eat and drink, because I eat Cheetos a lot, and I don’t eat anything good. I have it coming from everyone and just want to feel happy again!
I’m not losing sleep and crying over what the nurse said anymore, the first couple days afterwards, I was, but I am sleeping as good as I can right now. I just feel so depressed, but now is that possible, I am having a baby, I am supposed to be the happiest woman inthe world!
You sound exactly like me! I’m going through the exact same thing. I’m 21 weeks and been trying for almost 2 or 3 years. I didn’t ever think it was going to happen. I’ve been with my man for 5 years. Pregnancy can be harder on some woman more than most. Its harder on me, because i’m acting the same way you are. Just relax, its your hormones. I have to tell myself that everysingle day. It’ll be over before you know it.
I know it sounds impossible, but you do need to relax a little. Learn what is worth stressing over and what’s not like things you can’t do anything about. I am 33 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby. Up until about a month ago my family couldn’t stand me. I felt like I was going crazy too (as did they). It’s very hard, but you have to just think about you and the baby right now. It will all work out in the end.
are you crying and losing sleep over what the nurse said? If so, just think she is probably one of the ones that barely passed her classes and really doesn’t know jack. I’m really not sure what to tell you because that is the only thing you mentioned so I guess that’s what upsetting you so much? Just let it go. The doctor is smarter than the nurse so if he said everything is fine, then everything is fine.
Ok now that you added more details, you must learn the most important rule to being pregnant. IGNORE EVERYONE. You will get the most unhelpful, stressful advice EVER while you are pregnant. You will hear the rudest comments you’ve ever heard. If you feel that you are doing everything right, then ignore what other people say. Someone told me because I only gained 19 lbs and I worked my whole pregnancy that I was probably going to have the baby super early. And wait until you have the baby. Then everyone you know will give you all the advice they can think of. My mom told me I would ruin my marriage because I co slept for the first 3 months.
Aw hon its ok, i have weird hormones (i just found out im pregnant) and i cried watching the pilsbury commercial! you should check out a forum or something to talk, like Baby and Bump (im on there) and there are tons of women there who can relate to you.
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Just as you hoped, i also agree with you that it’s very probably your hormones. I went through a similar spell earlier in my pregnancy because i didn’t feel how i thought i would and because i was tired and didn’t really understand why i was grumpy. For now, the best you can do for yourself is blame the hormones and try not to get too bogged down with details. You don’t need to see a therapist, you aren’t ill you are just under the influence of some very powerful hormones in huge quantities. I would however suggest you either see a midwife or a doctor as you may be suffering from antenatal depression and they may be able to prescribe you some safe medication if they feel it is appropriate.
You said it yourself, you’re not normally this emotional- this isn’t normal for you and being pregnant too is too much of a coincidence to not be a large factor in why you feel so rubbish. It will pass, i guarantee it. Just go and see a doctor anyway and i’m sure they’ll tell you what i just told you.
Good luck.
BEEN THERE!!! o boy! well, my story is a little different. this is my 2nd baby im prego with. i was super duper sick and lost 10 lbs and everyone was on my case about eating and puking and this and that. after i was 2 months along i had to go to the doctors once a week. ugh!!! everyone is always pushing me to eat and just relax and this and that. HELLO!? i have a 2 year olld that im home alone with all day and the only one who cleans the house. i cant just relax and i DO eat! get off my case! well, every week i go to the doctors i hear nothing but bad news, but yet they tell me everything is fine. at 5 months we found out our new baby girl has cleft lip and cleft pallet…the worst case there is. while im trying to take that in and BAWLING my eyes out the doctor is hounding me with a million questions. how are you suppose to react when you hear things like this about your child?! even my bf said i was over reacting. worrying doesnt help in any pregnancy no matter what you are going thru. it may be hormones but i dont think your over reacting. having a baby is stressful and scary and no one knows wahat you are going thru but YOU. everyone has a different pregnancy. handle things the best you can. vent….if anyone tells you to get over it tell them to kiss your ass. my sister, when she found out i was prego this time, she hoped my kids die, now i just WANT to blame her for my daughter being like this. why would anyone say that about anyone elses babies?! hope this helps a bit. everyone goes thru stress and stuff while pregnant. if they say they didnt, they are LIARS!
i feel the same as you, when i was around 20 weeks i was in the hospital for a few days because my morning sickness was so bad i was severely dehydrated, ever since then this pregnancy has been an emotional hell, my midwife said i might have pre-postpartum depression and gave me a therapist as well. i think you should look for one who is female and has had children she would understand more, pregnancy is different for everyone and especially men, they will never understand what an emotional toll it takes, i hope it gets better for you you can e-mail me if you need to vent, good luck
wow, honey. I do understand sorta. i am a very emotional person. i was actually put on an anti depressant because of many of the same symptoms you are having however i was not pregnant. you need to tell your boyfriend your tired and sick because your pregnant. I would be very mad if a nurse mistreated me. Although i do think you really need to try and move on. but not having anyone to talk to isn’t helping you move on. And by the sounds of it your therapist is a jerk! find a new one. I would recommend going to your family doctor and asking about an anti depressant there is NOTHING wrong with that your are about to be a mom you need to do everything you can to make your self happy so you can make your baby happy. Try and keep in mind all the good things that are going on. Such as you have a boyfriend whom you love, a beautiful son on the way whom you love, three nieces and or nephews, your about to make you mom a grandma again. And i am sure you are beautiful women. and sometimes you have to remember to do something to make your self feel good. go get your hair done, or go get a pedicure, or just go for a walk, go buy a new outfit, go shopping for new baby clothes. AND GET A NEW THERAPIST!!!!!!!!!! you will be fine i promise just remember all the good things you have going in your life.